Experience is the Best Teacher coupled with Burning to Learn

You may have heard that EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER and that you have to burn to learn. Throughout life's journey, there would be many lessons to be learn, whether you recognise the lessons and understand and interpret them accurately is solely up to you. But I say to you, you do not have to burn to learn. You can learn from other people's situations and circumstances. You do not have to go through it, to learn from it.

It's like seeing someone being burnt badly after having their hand held over open flame. You have seen the results of such an action. Why the hell would you want to experience it. Isn't seeing enough a reason for you to want to avoid the same fate? Be wise people. Wake up and smell the coffee.

I am not saying that you would not have your own mistakes to make but why not avoid some by learning from others? Why not keep that  mistake level to a minimum? I know that COMMON SENSE is not that common but for those of you that are fortunate to possess such a trait why not exercise it?

It can be argued that in some instances first hand experiences are better than second hand. These are the experience like going through puberty that cannot be avoided. These are good. You can learn from others that may have gone through it before but only through experience would you be able to fully grasp what actually happens to your body. In this case experience is the best teacher.

I am going to say to you, if burn to learn you must then burn with a purpose. Learn from the fire and flames. Let the lessons guide you accordingly. Do not be a repeater of the burn to learn syndrome. Let experiences, both yours and others, be a great teacher. Let is be so great that you may not repeat your mistakes again. Let it be so great that you do not have to repeat somebody else's mistake.

Experience. Interpret. Understand. Learn.

Mixing Seasonal People With Lifetime Expectations

Seasonal people should never be confused and misinterpreted with lifetime expectations. Some people come into you life just for a SEASON. These people are not here to be in your life forever. Do not ever try to make seasonal people into LIFETIME EXPECTATIONS. Trust me that spells T-r-o-u-b-l-e. Yes Trouble with a capital T.

Seasonal people are like the leaves of a tree. When the season changes, they change. You need people who are like roots. You need people that are going to be there with you through THICK and THIN. But you need to be true to yourself. Ask yourself, is that man that I'm about to marry a LIFETIME EXPECTATION or someone you feel in love with during a SEASON. Girlfriend, if the answer is the latter, then run like hell because your marriage is not going to last. Forcing things that ought not to be does not in any way provide positive results nor does it give life to positive outcomes.

Do not get caught up trying to force relationships beyond its season. If the season has ended, let go of the relationship. It saves you tears and much needed SLEEP. If you do not, you would be so drained mentally, physically and emotionally. TRUST me I KNOW.

Embrace and appreciate Lifetime relationships. Lifetime people are the ones that stick and last beyond the season taking you through an entire lifetime. Lifetime people may teach you lifetime lessons. Pay close attention to your relationship. Know what type of relationship you have.

Lifetime Expecations are rare and hard to find. Thus, when you do hold fast to it, do not slip through your fingers like sand on the beach. I beseech you, do not go chasing and collecting rocks when there are DIAMONDS to be found. 

Remember that seasonal people may come into your life for a reason. Do not falt them for being SEASONAL. Appreciate them in the moment. But be ready to let go when the reason ceases to exist and the seaon has ended.

SEASONAL vs LIFETIME.

The Color Purple

Many of you may know that I  AB-So-Lute-Ly Love the color Purple.

It is said that purple stands for good judgment, or happiness.

After doing some research, I discovered that in the time of Christ, and much throughout history, the colour purple represented royalty and was worn by both men and women. It was worn almost exclusively by members of royal families and leaders of powerful empires. In some cultures it would have been punishable by death for someone "not of the blood of royalty" to wear the colour purple. Purple is and was associated with ROYALTY.

It is understandable that purple represents royalty, if one thinks how purple is a mix of red and blue, that is a mix of female and male energies. Mixing female and male energies grants the power of creation which is an attribute of God, thus of kings whom are God's representatives. Also, the complementary colour of purple would be a goldish yellow which is the colour of the sun. Just look at some purple for 30 seconds then look at a white surface and you should see some gold. Besides, purple is usually associated with spirit.
 

I also found that Purple was a sign of:

• Wealth, because purple dye was VERY expensive
• Leadership, because that was the way the government reconized people as important. This was mainly with senators.
• Trustworthiness, because purple was basically a campaign sign or flag.

Now, i most say that I knew about it being associated with Royalty and Wealth but as a sign of leadership and trustworthiness i had not the slightest idea.

The Complexity of Simple Love

What is love? If ten persons were randomly selected to answer this question, each would give a response relating to their perception of what love is. The truth is there is no single simple definition of the word “LOVE”. The complexity of this simple word called love is what makes it more valuable. It is the complexity of the word that adds to its value. So, what is LOVE?

Love is a feeling. A feeling that you can never somehow find the right words to describe. Love is the racing of your heart when that special someone is around you. Love is not forced. Love is action not something simply said. Simply saying I love you is not love. You can say it but you do not have to mean it..

You know that you love someone if when you pray, you pray for that someone more than you do for yourself. You know that it is love, if you can without hesitation sacrifice your way of life to be with that person. (Compromise) You are in love I you can die to yourself; forsaking your needs to include that of you partner.

Love is like your faith and belief in God. Love is not selfish. It is always kind. You know that you love someone when amidst all the confusion and bustling of a busy work day, even if it’s just for a split second, that special someone face dashes across your mind and a warm smile fills your heart making you know that you are his/hers as he/she is yours.  Love is understanding, patient and never boastful. Love is wanting the best your partner. If you love someone you should love them for who they are not what you want them to be. It is not trying to change that person. There must be some meeting point. Love is supporting that someone, walking every step of the way with them until they have soared beyond the stars.

Love is like a spider’s web. It starts out small but then develops into something so complex and beautiful. And that is the complexity of simple love.

Friends with Benefits

The phrase so commonly used by many to describe a relationship whereby a friendship is in existence for the beneficial interests that it provides for one or both parties. Many persons, both male and female alike, enter into these relationships for sexual pleasures. Sexual pleasures may be a trade-off for monetary gain for many women. A “friend with benefits’ relationship is deemed to be one that involves no attachments; there are no obligations to fulfill. Think again people! Consider this scenario: You are in a relationship for financial gain but you have to sleep with your beneficial friend in order to get that MONEY. Or you spend your money to receive that mind blowing, toes cracking, out of this world sex. What is the attachment in both scenarios? Clearly, in the former, attached to monetary gain is SEX. Whereas, in the latter, stapled to the receipt of sex is the money you had to spend for it. 

However, if one party does not know that he or she is involved in a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship then there is no obligations to fulfill. What I mean is this: if I am with Johnny for his money and I do not exchange sex for it, then clearly there is no string attached to the receiving of that money from Johnny.

Now ponder on this: What if you are currently in a ‘friends with benefits’ relationship but it is under the disguised of a “boyfriend-girlfriend” relationship?  Now you may be thinking: how could I not have noticed?  Well, maybe you were blinded by his faked charisma. Maybe, you were even hypnotized when he stared into your eyes creating that you are his as he is yours type of atmosphere. Or maybe, just maybe, you were caught between a rock and a hard place because of the way she makes your eyes roll back when she performs oral sex that sends shock waves through your body. Whatever the reasons for not looking into the mirror of reality, STOP AND CONSIDER:

Ladies: When you call him for sex is he readily available? Does he find time out of that very hectic schedule to come screw you? Do you seldom see him when it does not involve sex? Does he fail to text you back when you ask him to come see you to just hang out? Or does he ignore your calls when he does not want sex? If the answer to these questions is YES, then my evidently you are being used like a condom (put in to F**k, discard after use). You are not wife material. You are more like FOOD: EAT, DIGEST and DISCARD as WASTE.

Men: If your girl, only calls you when she wants money, or would like you to purchase something for her or even do something for her, REALITY CHECK: she does not care about you or your penis. She WANTS your MONEY not you. You just provide her with benefits, that is all there is to it. She does NOT want a PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP. It is more like sex me and give me your money. Though, I will call that being PROSTITUTION (selling sex for money) others may beautify it with the term ‘friends with benefits’. According to William Shakespeare, “A rose by any other name, is still a rose”.

If you know that you want a STEADY boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, do not get tangled in the web of the ‘friends with benefits’ spider.